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Certain people have genuine problems when they are around people who are expecting or already have children. Eventhough you grant them that happiness, it is hard not to be a little bit jealous of them. Questions like “why them and not me?” or “why is such happiness granted to them instead of me?” are haunting you. You feel like happiness was not divided correctly and that other people are more fortunate than you are.
If you have decided you wish to get pregnant, you often set certain unrealistic goals, such as wanting to get pregnant before your next birthday, or thinking that this will be the last summer you will be spending with just the two of you, or wanting to announce the good news for Christmas. If you are not pregnant by that time, you do not only raise the pressure but you start blaming yourself. You make it more and more unpleasant for yourself.
Try breaking free of that negative spiral and be friends with yourself again. Only by loving yourself can you love others. Feeling good is very important when you want to get pregnant. Negative feelings, such as stress, a sense of guilt, or depression are baleful when wanting to get pregnant. The more you are experiencing those feelings, the longer it will take before you get pregnant.
Sometimes you can have a hard time seeing how relatives show off their babies or if friends announce their pregnancy, filled with joy. However, try not to let your jealousy get the better of yourself. Those people may have been in the same boat before and may have had to wait a long time before they could get pregnant too. Keep thinking positive, because one day you will be experiencing the same bliss as they are right now.
If you want to get pregnant, and it does not work immediately, then the most awkward questions people can ask you are: “when are you going to have babies?” Or “next time, it is your turn huh?”. Try not to respond too emotionallly and prepare neutral responses such as “yes, I do hope to get pregnant, but I do not know when yet” or “we are still practising and we will see once we have got the hang of it”.
If you are both physically ok, and you have trouble getting pregnant, then Bach flowers can definitely be of assistance. They can eliminate the emotional problems which are mostly at the basis of your trouble getting pregnant. Should you want to know more about how Bach flowers can help you get pregnant, click “getting pregnant”.
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